and I think of my maternal Grandmother, Phyllis, who lived for more than 30 years after her husband died. My Grandfather, Nickelous, died right around when I was born so I always felt a bit cheated about that. And my Grandmother was very much of the sort who did not remarry. In the day, you didn't remarry, and that is quite something to think about.
Thanks Ray. "Secret" to a happy marriage? Simple! Just know how to say "Yes Dear" in a sincere & convincing way, when your wife asks or orders you to do anything..
Then! Never ever do the that thing immediately. Or you'll be jiggered forever!
I was widowed more than 7 years ago. But still, before going to sleep every night, I whisper: "I love you, my Hugo". And I hear perfectly inside me what he always answered me: "And I adore you, my little girl"...
Together with him, I confirmed what I always believed: that soul mates are not a legend, but a fact. And now that he is no longer physically with me, I confirmed that death is unreal when love is real.
You just know that your loved one is not "dead"... that he can't be.
That's why the pain in me for his absence disappeared to a great extent... because I realized that there is no such "absence" for my heart.
"Where, Oh death, is your sting? Where is your victory?"
This was beautiful Ray and when I scrolled down to the picture I burst into tears, tears of joy though for what they have/had and what I am so lucky to have as well.
Jun 13, 2023·edited Jun 13, 2023Liked by Ray Horvath, "The Source" :)
Oh, after reading, I am doubly envious. I know the pain, but you had something most of us do not.
We will grieve with you. Treat yourself gently...you are in shock. You have been in an accident and have lost part of your heart, your arms, your mind, yourself. This is the worst that could ever happen Be extremly gentle...and mourn.
This is lovely and I too wish the kind of marriage you have for everyone. Thank you for letting me know there is still commitment out there. As well as common sense and respect. I thank you again.
Blessings to you, Ray. I had that kind of love. The kind where you make the rules that you choose to live by and not follow those standards set by society. There is no need for perfection with this kind of love. Just appreciation for the shared time. I am 10 months out from my change in status to widowhood. At times I miss him desperately, but I am grateful that We shared those 14 years we had together. I was his rock and he was mine. I have to continue on but that doesn't mean I have to like every step. It's going to take a while to find my smile again.
and I think of my maternal Grandmother, Phyllis, who lived for more than 30 years after her husband died. My Grandfather, Nickelous, died right around when I was born so I always felt a bit cheated about that. And my Grandmother was very much of the sort who did not remarry. In the day, you didn't remarry, and that is quite something to think about.
Thanks Ray. "Secret" to a happy marriage? Simple! Just know how to say "Yes Dear" in a sincere & convincing way, when your wife asks or orders you to do anything..
Then! Never ever do the that thing immediately. Or you'll be jiggered forever!
Do the whatever eventually!
Thank you for sharing with us.
To love and be loved. This is what it’s all about. May we all be so blessed 💕
I was widowed more than 7 years ago. But still, before going to sleep every night, I whisper: "I love you, my Hugo". And I hear perfectly inside me what he always answered me: "And I adore you, my little girl"...
Together with him, I confirmed what I always believed: that soul mates are not a legend, but a fact. And now that he is no longer physically with me, I confirmed that death is unreal when love is real.
You just know that your loved one is not "dead"... that he can't be.
That's why the pain in me for his absence disappeared to a great extent... because I realized that there is no such "absence" for my heart.
"Where, Oh death, is your sting? Where is your victory?"
Blessings.
This was beautiful Ray and when I scrolled down to the picture I burst into tears, tears of joy though for what they have/had and what I am so lucky to have as well.
Oh, after reading, I am doubly envious. I know the pain, but you had something most of us do not.
We will grieve with you. Treat yourself gently...you are in shock. You have been in an accident and have lost part of your heart, your arms, your mind, yourself. This is the worst that could ever happen Be extremly gentle...and mourn.
You're one of the lucky ones. May you be blessed with many more years together. Cheers!
Only those of us so blessed know our secret fears.
You're blessed to know such a love, as was Stegiel.
When C.S. Lewis lost his beloved wife, he wrote. "The pain I feel now is the happiness I knew before. That's the deal."
That pretty much sums up the inexpressible.
42 years later I love her as much as the day we kissed the first time.
Thanks for sharing Ray.
https://youtu.be/iB2pPCydEjs
Sometimes it's easier expressed in music.
Thank you for this, for sharing your love and your love story.
This is lovely and I too wish the kind of marriage you have for everyone. Thank you for letting me know there is still commitment out there. As well as common sense and respect. I thank you again.
Blessings to you, Ray. I had that kind of love. The kind where you make the rules that you choose to live by and not follow those standards set by society. There is no need for perfection with this kind of love. Just appreciation for the shared time. I am 10 months out from my change in status to widowhood. At times I miss him desperately, but I am grateful that We shared those 14 years we had together. I was his rock and he was mine. I have to continue on but that doesn't mean I have to like every step. It's going to take a while to find my smile again.