You have realized your identity, and managed to get out of the bond! Moreover, you saw that people blame others for their own shortcomings, possibly because that's all they can see...
Please, understand that everyone can be considered a narcissist/psychopath. The difference is that those who abuse people are in positions of power (those who don't can be safely ignored and no interaction is needed). Other than that, all I can learn from such videos/texts (I usually don't watch videos) is ways to make sure I will never become one. As I have never aspired to take/accept a position of power, I am probably not exactly the target group. :)
As for parents like that, in my experience, they were "just" playing games, for lack of intimacy. The child is always the main victim, but even after realizing it, (s)he has limited options to be reconditioned after a primary conditioning... Been there, seen that...
The latest game against the people involves switching roles (based on Eric Berne's Games People Play), which is terribly difficult to recognize and discard:
Alan Watts one time said "If you want to 'improve' yourself - who is doing the improving?"
The matter of the fact is: this is a fishy statement that could come from Klaus Schwab. It's not the billionaires that are the problem - it's YOU. Right. There is so much left to say about this, but nobody wants to get down that rabbit hole, because it is so painful.
I have learned that not only am I responsible for creating my future, but also responsible for everything that happened to me in the past. 97% is in the subconscious. We're aware of only about 3% of our real thoughts and feelings. Until someone pokes at it and we respond. That's why journaling is important. It will reveal the hidden things, so we can cry it out, let it go, release it to God.
And become transformed into what we were created to be. In His image and likeness. 🥰🙏
That sounds pretty close, although I never subscribe to "we."
Also, it's a question of when. In my experience, I've been fully aware of what I was doing, but no matter how well-meaning I was, my decisions were based on fragmented data, which usually turned out to be wrong. Still, it was a whole lot better than me allowing the circumstances to make a decision for me:
That word " narcissistic " sure got a lot of attention on the internet over past few years! At one point they had a piece on the mothers and I was like, oh my I grew up with a narcissistic mother! Now it all makes sense bla bla bla
A little while later I saw that this was some sort of spell that was being used to further devide people and yes take away from ones personal healing journey. My mother suffered her own hardships and truly did the best she could, I forgive her and just love her . I move on... I believe that most of the people who are out there blaming others were probably the reprobate of their family at one point
One can fight the freaks only with their own weapons, which starts at not using their terminology and initiating a counter-game. I know, it sounds cruel, but I've been there, and there isn't anything else one can do.
That's good advice Ray. I discovered the best solution is to put time and distance between myself and any person suffering from either Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. As fraudulent as the consensus based DSM is, the aforementioned disorders are real, and if not, then those people were just psychopaths bent on destroying me.
You have realized your identity, and managed to get out of the bond! Moreover, you saw that people blame others for their own shortcomings, possibly because that's all they can see...
Please, understand that everyone can be considered a narcissist/psychopath. The difference is that those who abuse people are in positions of power (those who don't can be safely ignored and no interaction is needed). Other than that, all I can learn from such videos/texts (I usually don't watch videos) is ways to make sure I will never become one. As I have never aspired to take/accept a position of power, I am probably not exactly the target group. :)
As for parents like that, in my experience, they were "just" playing games, for lack of intimacy. The child is always the main victim, but even after realizing it, (s)he has limited options to be reconditioned after a primary conditioning... Been there, seen that...
The latest game against the people involves switching roles (based on Eric Berne's Games People Play), which is terribly difficult to recognize and discard:
https://rayhorvaththesource.substack.com/p/take-out-the-hook-8df
Alan Watts one time said "If you want to 'improve' yourself - who is doing the improving?"
The matter of the fact is: this is a fishy statement that could come from Klaus Schwab. It's not the billionaires that are the problem - it's YOU. Right. There is so much left to say about this, but nobody wants to get down that rabbit hole, because it is so painful.
It also comes only with age. :)
I have learned that not only am I responsible for creating my future, but also responsible for everything that happened to me in the past. 97% is in the subconscious. We're aware of only about 3% of our real thoughts and feelings. Until someone pokes at it and we respond. That's why journaling is important. It will reveal the hidden things, so we can cry it out, let it go, release it to God.
And become transformed into what we were created to be. In His image and likeness. 🥰🙏
Thank you Anne for the tip regarding journaling.
That sounds pretty close, although I never subscribe to "we."
Also, it's a question of when. In my experience, I've been fully aware of what I was doing, but no matter how well-meaning I was, my decisions were based on fragmented data, which usually turned out to be wrong. Still, it was a whole lot better than me allowing the circumstances to make a decision for me:
https://rayhorvaththesource.substack.com/p/the-most-important-question-must
That word " narcissistic " sure got a lot of attention on the internet over past few years! At one point they had a piece on the mothers and I was like, oh my I grew up with a narcissistic mother! Now it all makes sense bla bla bla
A little while later I saw that this was some sort of spell that was being used to further devide people and yes take away from ones personal healing journey. My mother suffered her own hardships and truly did the best she could, I forgive her and just love her . I move on... I believe that most of the people who are out there blaming others were probably the reprobate of their family at one point
One can fight the freaks only with their own weapons, which starts at not using their terminology and initiating a counter-game. I know, it sounds cruel, but I've been there, and there isn't anything else one can do.
That's good advice Ray. I discovered the best solution is to put time and distance between myself and any person suffering from either Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. As fraudulent as the consensus based DSM is, the aforementioned disorders are real, and if not, then those people were just psychopaths bent on destroying me.
Sorry, it was not meant to a piece of advice; only my take on it. It's still good to hear that you are finding it useful.
As for those "disorders," I've had my fill with them. Whatever those conditions are, they ARE real... Some people simply cannot be reached...
Dont be a "conspiracy theorist".
And how do you define that?
It was a DM. Check your direct messages. Thanks.
😎 naming is ‘knowing’ or not knowing. Broad sloppy language=sloppy thinking- seems the way of most, me too often- I’m working on it all the time😉.
You’re an inspiration for doing and ‘seeing’ better. Thanks my friend and hugs to you both as the year gets underway 💕
I think Bard was just being facetious… 😉🙂
I wish you and your wife a great 2025.
Thank you, the same to you!
Please, post it after an article, where the topic is relevant. Otherwise, I'd like to respectfully ask you to delete your irrelevant comment(s) here.
I couldn't see any evidence.
I have screenshots, too. How would I send them to you?
How is that possible? I told you exactly where to go.