There are men I would like to be a companion with, but they want "extra benefits" which I don't want to share with them. I find it kind of sad. Would love the male companionship, just not that other stuff.,
I have experienced the scorned woman for avoiding her initiations. It's like refuse them and you automatically become an outcast to be thrown off the planet. There may be many reasons for delaying engagement at that particular time. But for many women, it's now or never when they come after your attention. Yet, a man is supposed to take rejection after rejection and never complain.
Doesn't matter now. I'm too old to worry about these things. Besides, my S/O deserves my full attention.
And: The term “romantic love” seems to have been coined by 19th century literary critic Gaston Paris to denote a particular constellation of attitudes and patterns of behavior that characterized a body of literature arising in Provence in the 12th century (Paris, 1883). Amour courtois (Courtly love) had the following general attributes: an elevation of the status of the woman, a suffering caused by passionate attraction to and separation from the beloved, and a transformation of the lovers which elevates them onto a separate plane of existence, the world of lovers, in which life is experienced more intensely (Paris, 1883). Originally considered a uniquely European phenomenon (Doi, 1973; Hsu, 1985; Stone, 1989), more recent research has shown precursors and analogues of romantic love in Plato’s dialogues, Islamic culture, and ancient Indian writings.
In current scholarship romantic love sounds like a fuzzy concept that is used in literature in broad meaning, being often replaced by passionate love and sexual attraction as synonyms. They all have a lot in common, but still are different. They have to be distinguished for the question of cross-cultural universality of romantic love. Romantic love is the form of love that is most salient in public view, but it has different subcategories; some of them are related to sexual love. Sexuality is not identical with love; however it can become one of the ways that love is experienced and expressed in relationships.
The notion of romantic love as a mixture of sexual desire and affection is paramount in Havelock Ellis’ many-volumes Study in the Psychology of Sex (1897-1928). Ellis concluded that the love is best viewed as a mixture of lust and friendship which includes tenderness and affection. He views romantic love as more than just sexual desire, although he found sexual desire to be an important part of romantic love (1933/1963, p. 234).
Lmao. Seriously? Any woman so insecure as to be incapable of surmounting a civil rejection probably has the emotional stability of Alex “I will not be ignored, Dan!” Forrest and the sooner the discouragement, the better. Subscribe to my Substack
My late husband was from a family of 12. Apart from 3 sons who left their country young, all marriages were arranged and they're all still going strong. I'm from family of 6 and only 2 of the marriages survived. It's also much easier in a muslim family for a man to find a wife even if he's got very little going for him. Just an observation.
THE MAN!!!! If you’re attracted to a woman, flirt with her, compliment her...it’s not rocket science! Nature takes care of the rest.
I feel so sorry for the last couple of generations, sometimes.
And be open to everything, maybe someone you wouldn’t normally think of dating.
I’m older than he is. It’s not about age, necessarily. We celebrated our 8 year anniversary in May. If I knew how old he was, I may not have gone out with him.
I’m immature and he’s mature...great balance! Lol!
>>I know one thing. If a woman makes a pass at a man and the man refuses, “There is no fury in hell >>like a woman scorned.” He is likely to have an enemy for the rest of his life.
LOL - Not true. I've been turned down a few times and it's not that big of a deal - just a fact of life that not everyone you find attractive will feel the same way. Better to take your chances & just ask than to always wonder "what if". If the answer is a polite no thanks, then no harm & no foul - them's the breaks :)
There are men I would like to be a companion with, but they want "extra benefits" which I don't want to share with them. I find it kind of sad. Would love the male companionship, just not that other stuff.,
I have experienced the scorned woman for avoiding her initiations. It's like refuse them and you automatically become an outcast to be thrown off the planet. There may be many reasons for delaying engagement at that particular time. But for many women, it's now or never when they come after your attention. Yet, a man is supposed to take rejection after rejection and never complain.
Doesn't matter now. I'm too old to worry about these things. Besides, my S/O deserves my full attention.
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And: The term “romantic love” seems to have been coined by 19th century literary critic Gaston Paris to denote a particular constellation of attitudes and patterns of behavior that characterized a body of literature arising in Provence in the 12th century (Paris, 1883). Amour courtois (Courtly love) had the following general attributes: an elevation of the status of the woman, a suffering caused by passionate attraction to and separation from the beloved, and a transformation of the lovers which elevates them onto a separate plane of existence, the world of lovers, in which life is experienced more intensely (Paris, 1883). Originally considered a uniquely European phenomenon (Doi, 1973; Hsu, 1985; Stone, 1989), more recent research has shown precursors and analogues of romantic love in Plato’s dialogues, Islamic culture, and ancient Indian writings.
In current scholarship romantic love sounds like a fuzzy concept that is used in literature in broad meaning, being often replaced by passionate love and sexual attraction as synonyms. They all have a lot in common, but still are different. They have to be distinguished for the question of cross-cultural universality of romantic love. Romantic love is the form of love that is most salient in public view, but it has different subcategories; some of them are related to sexual love. Sexuality is not identical with love; however it can become one of the ways that love is experienced and expressed in relationships.
The notion of romantic love as a mixture of sexual desire and affection is paramount in Havelock Ellis’ many-volumes Study in the Psychology of Sex (1897-1928). Ellis concluded that the love is best viewed as a mixture of lust and friendship which includes tenderness and affection. He views romantic love as more than just sexual desire, although he found sexual desire to be an important part of romantic love (1933/1963, p. 234).
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Fisher, 2004; Hatfield & Ellis, 1960; Fromm, 1956;
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; however it is a form of love that is
different from mere needs driven by sexual desire, or lust (
. Romantic love generally involves a mix of emotional and sexual desire:
emotional highs, exhilaration, passion, and elation. Romantic love is passionate, but the
passion itself is not the only feature of this type of love. Romanceis the fanciful,
expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person.
There is often more emphasis on the emotions than on physical pleasure. According to
dictionaries, romantic love is characterized by strong affection and preoccupation with
love, unrealistic and idealistic attitude toward a partner, and the feeling that l’amour
toujours (French) – love forever that never ends and is always there (e.g., http://dictionary.
reference.com/browse/romantic, http://www.thefreedictionary.com/Romance+(love),
Casually mention his partner, Bruce?
Lmao. Seriously? Any woman so insecure as to be incapable of surmounting a civil rejection probably has the emotional stability of Alex “I will not be ignored, Dan!” Forrest and the sooner the discouragement, the better. Subscribe to my Substack
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From the comments below I can see now why it's all messed up.
My late husband was from a family of 12. Apart from 3 sons who left their country young, all marriages were arranged and they're all still going strong. I'm from family of 6 and only 2 of the marriages survived. It's also much easier in a muslim family for a man to find a wife even if he's got very little going for him. Just an observation.
My “rule”: Let men be men. I think some women forget that. I refuse to ever ask a man out.
#1. Marry early. #2Create a persona that precludes women from approaching him. Become unapproachable
THE MAN!!!! If you’re attracted to a woman, flirt with her, compliment her...it’s not rocket science! Nature takes care of the rest.
I feel so sorry for the last couple of generations, sometimes.
And be open to everything, maybe someone you wouldn’t normally think of dating.
I’m older than he is. It’s not about age, necessarily. We celebrated our 8 year anniversary in May. If I knew how old he was, I may not have gone out with him.
I’m immature and he’s mature...great balance! Lol!
>>I know one thing. If a woman makes a pass at a man and the man refuses, “There is no fury in hell >>like a woman scorned.” He is likely to have an enemy for the rest of his life.
LOL - Not true. I've been turned down a few times and it's not that big of a deal - just a fact of life that not everyone you find attractive will feel the same way. Better to take your chances & just ask than to always wonder "what if". If the answer is a polite no thanks, then no harm & no foul - them's the breaks :)
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